I believe the most important part of the counselling process is the relationship between the counsellor and the client. Positive change can only occur when the person feels empathy and acceptance in a trusting, non-judgemental environment.
People are consciously able to determine their own behaviour and are driven by a need for self-fulfillment. Difficulties in our daily lives can hinder this ability. I am able to help people to become aware of any barriers they may have to their need for self-fulfilment by understanding the world from their point of view, offering a safe and trusting environment and challenging where necessary. I believe that this will help people to explore previously unrecognised emotions which can allow the person to experience true change.
With this in mind I believe that the counselling relationship is collaborative, that both the counsellor and the client can work together to identify and monitor goals towards a successful end.
Living with sexually compulsive behaviours can feel both isolating and shameful. Secrecy and lies can have a huge impact on relationships leaving you feeling cut off and isolated whilst shame thrives in secrecy leading to feelings of not being worthy and internalised blame.
Sessions will revolve around identifying the causes and influences of your sexual behaviour and looking at how these behaviours impact every aspect of your life and your relationships. Relevant assessment tools can be used to identify the severity of your behaviours.
Exploration will cover any circumstances that have had an impact on you including traumatic events, attachment and identifying your core beliefs as well as looking at the neuroscience behind addiction.
I aim to offer a shame free, non-judgemental and supportive environment in which to do this.